Why it Matters to Tell the Truth Early
11/14/2014
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How long can you safely wait to talk to your kids about IVF, Donors and/or Surrogates?
While there is no absolute answer to that question, there are a number of reasons why talking about it "early and often" is the easiest and most beneficial way to go. The world is a wonderful, awesome place to young children and they are open and non-judgmental. The longer you wait to tell the longer you have to get anxious about it (or worry that a well intentioned friend or family member will mention something before you do). The sooner you start telling your child about how much they were wanted and loved (and the extraordinary lengths you went to have them the better. The longer you wait the more your child will wonder why the information wasn't mentioned sooner: is there something wrong with coming into the world this way? For more click on this link: Psychotherapist’s Innovative New Picture Books Help Donor, IVF & Surrogate Kids Understand “Where They Came From”.
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11/3/2018 04:23:10 pm
It is very hard for me to understand why people still have to lie. I mean, I know that having to tell someone a really bad news is terrifying, however, don't you think it is a lot more heartbreaking to give someone false hope. A lie can give happiness for a short while, but in time all of it will just reemerge. The sadness that you have previously avoided will just be twice as bad, I personally can't bear the pain.
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